Marriage is a union of social nature between people. It is one of the most important decisions that a person is required to make in their lives.
Arranged marriages involve a negotiation between the parents of the spouses to be who are usually of the view that marriage is sacred duty which they have to provide for their children. The parents consider social, economic and political factors when making. Some wish to have their daughter married in a wealthy family whereby she can have greater chances of being successful. Arranged marriages are common in countries such as India, Japan Iran and Iraq. In Japan for example, when a woman reaches the marriageable age the parents then set out to find a suitable suitor for her. The determining factor is usually a bond between two families.
Most arranged marriages observe traditions such as the payment of bride price which serves as a toke to the parents of the bride to be. The gifts act to seal the marriage. Photos and bio data of the intended spouses are then analyzed to gauge the suitability. Traditionally, the bride and groom never have the chance to see each other until the wedding day but some cultures allow them to enjoy a short period for courtship so that they get to know each other prior to the wedding day.
According to research, people in arranged marriages have the tendency of growing in love as they spend more time together as compared to those in regular marriages who tend to feel less love as time goes by. Arranged marriages have a cultural view as compared to a romantic view thus factors such as compatibility are always carefully considered. The reason as to this is that these arranged marriages are usually carefully considered over a time period and compatibility factors such as life goals and families are usually considered. Other factors such as matching religion, similar cultures, morals and values are also considered before the marriages.
Before the marriage deal is finalized, the potential groom and his family are usually closely scrutinized to make sure that they have the capability of making good husbands and fathers. The reputation of the family is also observed to ensure that they have a good reputation in the community. The bride is also observed to ensure that she is respectable and has acceptable manners thus they have a likelihood of offering each other life commitments even when they undergo challenges. Some challenges that are faced in arranged marriages sis that some people may feel like they are being forced hence bringing about some issues.
Normal marriages on the other hand can sometimes be influenced by non-solid factors such as lust, physical attraction and passion thus they are more capable of ending their relationships when facing hurdles since they are of the belief that this is a natural occurrence. The society places pressure on these marriages hence it is quite difficult for the marriage to break down. This is one of the main reasons why there has been an increase in the divorce rates in the recent years.
Arranged marriages ensures that there is a very strong commitment and the couple knows that they are married to stay hence they tend to last longer and put all effort to ensure that the marriage actually works.
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